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W, thanks, Nicole! I'm like that in real life too ;)

@Acra: I got cut off :P

Anyways, getting involved helps so much more than people care to notice. Participate with others, it helps.

Being ignored? Yeah, that must suck. But, like I said, let your true self shine through! If you don't socialize, you have no one else to blame but yoiurself. Socialize with others, make some new friends and be outgoing. That's the most I can say. Also, try to talk to your family more, socialize withb them too. I'm not saying to vent and tell them all your problem, but just have a conversation with them. Not about problems, but about...anything. Just talk.

So, be yourself, socialize and hang in there. Things will work themselves out.

-Nikki ;)

@Acra:

First of all, don't be sorry for writing so much. THat's exactly what this quiz was for.

Online doesn't matter as much, in my opinion. Online is like a false reality, you just need to find the right site. Trust me you'll find some really nice people if you go to the Forums. If you don't know where that is, look at where it says "Top 40 Quizzes". Near that, I think to the left, it says "Forums". Click on it and go on "Feedback and Updates" to introduce yourself. Everyone is friendly on GTQ... or, most people, at least.

Second, I'm sorry. Really, I am. I know what it's like to feel depressed or sad, but you knwow hat a good pick-me-up is for me? Wake up. Every morning, when you wake up, think of something happy. Sperak aloud or in your thoughts, but tell yourself "I am happy". Convince yourself tat you're happy, and when a depressing thought comes along, think of the good and not the bad. Find the pro to the con.

Also, admire yourself. Look at yourself and think, "I am smart.. I am strong. I am unique. I have something aobut me that no one else can compare to, I am special." Believe that, make yourself believe it. Feel good about yourself, it's another key to being happy.

Doing all the work and stuff like that? Yeah. I knwo what that's like. You look at the work you did and think that you did a great job, but everyone just takes credit and doesn't even ackknowledge your good, hard work. I know, it sucks. But, there is a way to change that: don't do all the waork! Tell them flat out that you won't do it. Speak up and be outgoing, it helps so much more than people can see.

Being ignored? I know, it sucks. But, like I said, be yourself and be outgoing. Let your inner self, your personality shine through. Let people know who you are, and, I know you might hear this a lot, but: get involved! I'm serious, it actually does. There's more, here it is:

@Nicole

Awww crap. I am in the SAME freaking position as you! Everyday, you think about him at least once, right? He treats you like a friend, makes you laugh and defends you, while also teasing you playfully? Then, yeah. He's a friend.

In my opinion, wait a little. If he has a girlfriend, then when they break it off, you can tell him. But for now, don't be flirty. Be...yourself. But, show off subtly: have him notice you, be more open and outgoing then usual. And when you look him in the eye, if, like me you have a talent for acting and crap, then try to show it through your eyes. Let them sparkle through, let them say "This is me. And it's freaking awesome." I know, easier said then done, but that's what mirrors are for.

In my opinion? If you have a bright, alluring, great personality, then he likes you. My guess is that he likes you. But, check the zone before telling him your feelings: try to make sure that he likes you, or at least get above 50%. A crush is no way to break a friendship, you know.

So, hang in their. Let your personality shine through: let him come to you.

-Nikki ;)

@Popbomb:

Yeah, I understand all the commotion of being the new kid.

First of all, the most important thing I can say? Don't worry! Worrying will only make you nervous and anxious, it won't help. Relax, take a breather and clear your head.

A shortcut to getting to class on time and finding your way? Make. Friends. I know, it sounds hard, but if you are an open-minded person (you should be), then you should also be able to socialize. Make yourself open, so people will come to you. Either that, or look around, find someone you think is interesting and go introduce yourself. Shyness is like a disease: it doesn't help. In this situation, being outgoing is really your best bet.

About the crush, is he a really good friend to begin with? If so, then go to him. Worry about him, that's what friends are for. Let him no that you are open and that he can share things with you.

If not... then let it go. Odds are, he won't go to you: A crush is not a friend. Far from it. He seems to be in a little in a phase, best you can do is either approach him like a friend, or apporach his friends.

Remembe r: don't worry, be smart. Everything will work out.

Also, I didn't e-mail you because my e-mail is my real name... I'd rather not give that out.

-Nikki ;)

@Cello:

Yeah, I see how this can be bothersome. For me, I'm basically in the role of your sister. But, for you: is your sister very outgoing, alluring, interesting or charming? If that is the case, then it makes sense that she may get along better with everyone, not just your friends.

I know, that doesn't really help, but this might: when with your friends, try to limit the time you guys are around your sister. That way, they stick with you for most of the time, unless they ask to see her. Under those circumstances, you let them, but you make sure you're socializing as well.

Your second option? Let her in! It's a great form of sisterly bonding, and if all of you can be friends, then that's great. I understand why you feel threatened, though. But there's one thing you have to remember: your friends are not under your possesion. They can do as they wish. So, if they choose your sister over you, then they weren't very good friends to begin with.

Also, when around them: forget about your fears and insecurities, just be yourself! If you can be yourself around anyone, it's your friends, though and through. Tell them about this, too. Not the threatened part, but the lonely part. How you just don't feel and sociable as you used to be. In my opinion, a friend is the best pick-me-up you can ask for.

I understand whay you wouldn't share much with your family: it makes sense, no need to change it. Family doesn't always tend to understand. THough, you should tell your sister about this. As a sister, and if she's a good sister, she won't tell your friends: it's better to let her know, so she can include you.

Don't feel embarassed or depressed: everyone goes through this. Just be yourself, speak up and you'll be fine.

-NIkki ;)

Your welcome, 'Lil :) Anyone else? Don't be shy, turst me: letting loose helps.

@Sonic:

I see what you mean. I have that too: you jsut wanna make friends, but the sis doesn't like it? In my personal opinion, your sister might feel threatened by you: not many people like to share their friends, least of all with their siblings.

I know it must hurt you to watch all your friends leave, but don't think of it as because of you: true friends wouldn't leave because of another. A true friend will accept you for who you are and what you represent, no matter what that may be.

My advice? Don't change yourself. Being someone you're not will not help. Instead, think before you type. I know we live in a fast world where people think fast and do everything quickly, but sometimes, taking a little extra time can aave you a whole lot of trouble. Before writing something or making a joke that I'm sure would be funny, think: Will this offend one of the readers? Will this hurt or annoy my friends?

Also, I suggest you don't go around your sister's friends, at least when she's around. It tends to make hem all uncomfortable: instead, chill with them online when they aren't their. hen, they won't have anything to hide.

You hang in there: things will ge better. They always do. Just think before you act and slow down a little, relax. Think positiive also, it brightens up any mood or attitude.

And even if you do lose a few friends along the way, you have GTQ too. And, most importantly, you have family. And real life. Don't feel bad about what happens online, it doesn't matter nearly as much as what's happening in your reality. Be yourself, think before acting and appreciate what you have. Don't foreget to think positive.

-Nikki ;)

@Lil:

You know what? I see exactly what you mean. I'm basically in the same position as you now, so an answer is not exactly what I can give you. To each his own. Sometimes, I wish Summer could last 30 days longer, or if I could at least pause my day for things to slow down.

Here''s what I have to say: live in the moment. I know: easier said then done. But, the thing is, the future can wait. Nothing is so urgent that it will ruin everything if you stop thinking about it. Look around you, take everything in. The only thing constant in life is change: either live with it, or live alongside it. Though life won't always wait for you, you can set your own pace. The future is called the future for one big reason: it's afterwards. And when you get to the point where the future is NOW, then there's another future to worry about. Best I can say? Stop worrying! THink about what's happening here and now, it matters more than then what'll happen later on.

Find a balance. You sound like me: not sure about the future or what you'll end up being or doing. School is important: it'll open a lot of doors. So, find a balance between socializing and working. School is just plain hard for some people, so make some study time: 25 minutes to an hour, whatever works best for you.

I can see that you're not ready for a lot of things. But you know what? Sometimes, it's not about being ready or prepared. Sometimes, it's just about going with the flow, rolling with the punches. Life won't stop, and neither can you. Just... move on. Keep up with what's happening and forge the future. Forget the insecurities and the worries, forget the anxiety and the regrets. Think...positive. It really does work.

Hope I helped.
-Nikki ;)

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