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@Ky:

See, the thing is, I've never been in this type of situation before. So, just keep that in mind.

Now, he's soulmate perfect? Personally, I doubt that. The more serious the relationship becomes, the more secrets end up spilling, if you know what I mean. So, be careful with your heart: you might not know him the waay you think you do. Just a forewarning, do what you will with the information.

Sec ond, you're not the only one afraid of commitment. Now, if I were to guess, your age is most prbably between 13 and 16, am I correct? If so, it's okay to wait: if he's trying to push a serious relationship onto you, just relax. You don't have to go through with it, since BOTH of you have to agree if you want to move the relationship to the next level.

So, try to keep things where they are now. Or, if you're the open relationship type, tell him. Over IM, FB, I don't know, as long as you make the message clear. Surprises would not be very welcome in this situation.

I don't know what to tell you, but in my opinion, distance relationships don't tend to work out. Especially when you're a teenager. If you want to keep him, don't break up with him, but don't say I didn't warn you if something relatively bad happens.

So, my advice? Relax and enjoy the ride! If it gets to bumpy or too serious, just slow it down: plain and simple.

Come back if you have anymore trouble, I'd be happy to give my opinion on the subject.

-Nikki; )

@Sonic:

I see what you mean. I have that too: you jsut wanna make friends, but the sis doesn't like it? In my personal opinion, your sister might feel threatened by you: not many people like to share their friends, least of all with their siblings.

I know it must hurt you to watch all your friends leave, but don't think of it as because of you: true friends wouldn't leave because of another. A true friend will accept you for who you are and what you represent, no matter what that may be.

My advice? Don't change yourself. Being someone you're not will not help. Instead, think before you type. I know we live in a fast world where people think fast and do everything quickly, but sometimes, taking a little extra time can aave you a whole lot of trouble. Before writing something or making a joke that I'm sure would be funny, think: Will this offend one of the readers? Will this hurt or annoy my friends?

Also, I suggest you don't go around your sister's friends, at least when she's around. It tends to make hem all uncomfortable: instead, chill with them online when they aren't their. hen, they won't have anything to hide.

You hang in there: things will ge better. They always do. Just think before you act and slow down a little, relax. Think positiive also, it brightens up any mood or attitude.

And even if you do lose a few friends along the way, you have GTQ too. And, most importantly, you have family. And real life. Don't feel bad about what happens online, it doesn't matter nearly as much as what's happening in your reality. Be yourself, think before acting and appreciate what you have. Don't foreget to think positive.

-Nikki ;)

@Jack:

Sorry, but I can't really tell you what to say. To each his own. But, here's a little help, for starters:

I'm absolutely sure you've heard this before, but be yourself! The thing is, a lot of people, maybe even you, slip under the radar. Meaning, that you might go unnoticed. So, be yourself, but exagerate: speak up, let people see you, socialize more often. Don't try to go unnoticed.

Secon d, defend her: if she's in a fight, being told off or people are trashing her, then defend her. This will always be appreciated, and will also leave a good impression on her.

Another thing: compliments! Whether it's "I like what you're wearing" to "How are you so smart?", all compliments help fuel a girl's ego. Always, no exceptions. So, pay her a few compliments once in a while, it will help your case.

Hmm... what to say? I think I've helped you al I could at the moment. If you really like this girl, and are willing to go the whole nine yards, then you could always draw her a picture, if you're a n artist. Write er a poem, if you're good at that. Or, be mysterious: every girl likes that. Leave a little flower (a rose, maybe) in her locker with a little note. Be chivalrous, that works miracles.

It's the little things like these that can go a long way. But, remember: if she really, truly doesn't like you, then there isn't much you can do. So, you be the judge: either keep going after her, or let her go. Either way, there's plenty of other fist in the sea, so if you fail, you'll just bounce back.

Good luck with the girl :)
-Nikki ;)

@Cello:

Yeah, I see how this can be bothersome. For me, I'm basically in the role of your sister. But, for you: is your sister very outgoing, alluring, interesting or charming? If that is the case, then it makes sense that she may get along better with everyone, not just your friends.

I know, that doesn't really help, but this might: when with your friends, try to limit the time you guys are around your sister. That way, they stick with you for most of the time, unless they ask to see her. Under those circumstances, you let them, but you make sure you're socializing as well.

Your second option? Let her in! It's a great form of sisterly bonding, and if all of you can be friends, then that's great. I understand why you feel threatened, though. But there's one thing you have to remember: your friends are not under your possesion. They can do as they wish. So, if they choose your sister over you, then they weren't very good friends to begin with.

Also, when around them: forget about your fears and insecurities, just be yourself! If you can be yourself around anyone, it's your friends, though and through. Tell them about this, too. Not the threatened part, but the lonely part. How you just don't feel and sociable as you used to be. In my opinion, a friend is the best pick-me-up you can ask for.

I understand whay you wouldn't share much with your family: it makes sense, no need to change it. Family doesn't always tend to understand. THough, you should tell your sister about this. As a sister, and if she's a good sister, she won't tell your friends: it's better to let her know, so she can include you.

Don't feel embarassed or depressed: everyone goes through this. Just be yourself, speak up and you'll be fine.

-NIkki ;)

@Luv:

Well, really, it all depends on you. You need to remember that forever is a long time and if you ever get bored, then you should come here...if you're in the mood of course.

But, don't let one site rule your life: if you have limited innternet time, try to discover other websites. Examples of websites that could distract you, other then GTQ:

-Youtube
- FmyLife
-I-Am-Bore d
-DeviantART
-Fa cebook

There are plenty more, discover them for yourself and make your time on the internet worthwhile. If you aren't enjoying yourself here anymore, then leave. Simple as that.

But, if you ever feel like taking a new quiz, chatting in the Forums or making a poll out of boredom, you will always be welcomed here. Don't let other Users hold you back... even if it's me.

Good luck, book buddy!
-Nikki ;)

@Nicole:

I feel really, eally happy that you're coming to me for advice...makes me feel special! And also, I'm happy that I'm helping...if that makes sense. And it's perfectly fine with me that you come to this quiz: I check almost everyday, and it's nice to see people commenting.

Now about your friend...

Your friend just got adopted today/yesterday? Hmm. Well, this is my take on it:

You saying "Hey Mom" must have triggered something within her: raw emotion. If, she had indeed known her parents, you having a real mom must make her feel horrible, and you saying "Hey Mom" might have reminded her that she didn't have real parents and her home is now with stranger and/or 'fake' parents.

If, she had never known her parents from the beginning, then her being adopted might have either left her very happy or depressed. This is because she would have never known the love of her real parents and longs for it, whereas, you saying "Hey Mom" might have reminded her that she will never have that: a real Mom.

Seems to me like your friend has a lot of bottled up emotions from having to be adopted and is having trouble dealing with it. You saying "Hey Mom" has to have triggered something: she couldn't bottle it all up anymore, it forced her to go loose.

Now, please don't feel guilty: it wasn't at all your fault. It's not like you could have known or avoided it.

My advice? Now that you have a bit of an understanding of what's happening, try and get her to open up. Sit there with her, comfort her and tell her, "it's okay to vent. I'm here, and I want to listen. You can tell me what's bothering you, I only want to help you. You're my friend, and this is hurting me too." or at least, something along those lines.

Give her time: pushing her too hard will just make her close up even more, it's up to her. This is a very hard time in her life and the best yo

@Lil:

You know what? I see exactly what you mean. I'm basically in the same position as you now, so an answer is not exactly what I can give you. To each his own. Sometimes, I wish Summer could last 30 days longer, or if I could at least pause my day for things to slow down.

Here''s what I have to say: live in the moment. I know: easier said then done. But, the thing is, the future can wait. Nothing is so urgent that it will ruin everything if you stop thinking about it. Look around you, take everything in. The only thing constant in life is change: either live with it, or live alongside it. Though life won't always wait for you, you can set your own pace. The future is called the future for one big reason: it's afterwards. And when you get to the point where the future is NOW, then there's another future to worry about. Best I can say? Stop worrying! THink about what's happening here and now, it matters more than then what'll happen later on.

Find a balance. You sound like me: not sure about the future or what you'll end up being or doing. School is important: it'll open a lot of doors. So, find a balance between socializing and working. School is just plain hard for some people, so make some study time: 25 minutes to an hour, whatever works best for you.

I can see that you're not ready for a lot of things. But you know what? Sometimes, it's not about being ready or prepared. Sometimes, it's just about going with the flow, rolling with the punches. Life won't stop, and neither can you. Just... move on. Keep up with what's happening and forge the future. Forget the insecurities and the worries, forget the anxiety and the regrets. Think...positive. It really does work.

Hope I helped.
-Nikki ;)

@Lil:

Woahhhh chill! I have a life and school: sorry if I couldn't get back to you right away.

First of all, remember this: ALL guys are really perverted. I know, it might not seem that way, but trust me: they are. I know from experience (no, I'm not a guy, but most of my buds are). Consider yourself lucky to be liking a truthful guy that lets his true colors show. At least he's honest, and you know what you're getting into.

Second, your dreams are influenced by your thoughts and emotions. The reason you think of him as the bad guy in your dreams is most probably because of the way your friends describe him, since most people are very easily influenced by the opinions of their friends. Of course, I could very wrong, but this is just an educated guess.

Now, in my opinion, you should give him a chance. Forget what your friends say: if you like him, you like him. Might as well let your hear speak out.

The thing is, if he rwally IS a not-so-good guy, treats you adly, doesn't like you much, etc. then forget it. No offense, but it won't be worth it if one of the alreadt mentioned applies.

Persona lly, Matt doesn't sound like such a bad guy. Go for it!

-Nikki;)

@Lunatic:
Oh, that really sucks.

Well, I get that too, but I nned to know: is it like a giant knot? In that case:

-Lather conditioner: crazily. Like, overdose on conditioner and center it into the clump.

-Grab a pointy brush: not those soft, weak ones. I mean the ones with pointy, slightly painful bristles. The brushes that are made for coarse hair.

-Make a fist and hold on TIGHT to the spot of hair above the clump. It might be a small space to work with, but make sure you grab it hard enough so if you pulled your hair, it wouldn't hurt too bad.

-Brush away! Crazily, as in hair will most probably be pulled out in the process. Go nuts and brush until you see it start to go away.

If that doesn't work, I suggest cutting it, then fixing your hair to cover the spot until the hair grows back. Sorry.

Good luck....hopefully, your bad hair days are almost over.

-Nikki;)

@Nicole:

Nice to hear form you again :D You should seriously check out the Forums on this site...we could chat :)

Anyways, (totally random) about your problem: you're in a real dilemma. Now, I've never been involved in anything like this, so keep that in mind.

But...you have two options here. The first one is what I would do:

It's not the 'nicest' way for him, but it's probably one that will benefit your best friend. Next time he comes to you, tell him that if he tries to flirt, ask you out, etc. ever again, you'd tell your bestie. Explain to him that what he's doing is wrong and that you're not the kind of girl that would hurt her bestie that way. Tell him that he should be faithful to his girlfriend.

Also , be very clear to explain that if he breaks up with your bestie for you, you WON'T go out with him. (Unless you actually want to, which I don't recommend) Be very, very clear in explaining that you're a good friend, and good friends don't date the exes of their besties.

Now, if he does happen to approaach you somewhat 'romantically' again, tell your friend. But, be gentle...very gentle. Explain that it started happening a little while ago, and you didn't tell her right away because you cared about her feelings and didn't want to hurt her. Apologize right away about not telling her right away, even though it's not really your fault.

Your other option, of course, is to tell her straight up and hope she breaks up with him. You risk ruining her relationship but hey, it's not like the guy was good in the first place.

Congrats on Josh, though! On a less helpful note: did you say yes? Do you like him? I'm guessing you do and if so, I HOPE you said yes :D

All the best, hope everything works out! (Come again anytime)

-Nikki; )

@Nicole

Awww crap. I am in the SAME freaking position as you! Everyday, you think about him at least once, right? He treats you like a friend, makes you laugh and defends you, while also teasing you playfully? Then, yeah. He's a friend.

In my opinion, wait a little. If he has a girlfriend, then when they break it off, you can tell him. But for now, don't be flirty. Be...yourself. But, show off subtly: have him notice you, be more open and outgoing then usual. And when you look him in the eye, if, like me you have a talent for acting and crap, then try to show it through your eyes. Let them sparkle through, let them say "This is me. And it's freaking awesome." I know, easier said then done, but that's what mirrors are for.

In my opinion? If you have a bright, alluring, great personality, then he likes you. My guess is that he likes you. But, check the zone before telling him your feelings: try to make sure that he likes you, or at least get above 50%. A crush is no way to break a friendship, you know.

So, hang in their. Let your personality shine through: let him come to you.

-Nikki ;)

@Acra: I got cut off :P

Anyways, getting involved helps so much more than people care to notice. Participate with others, it helps.

Being ignored? Yeah, that must suck. But, like I said, let your true self shine through! If you don't socialize, you have no one else to blame but yoiurself. Socialize with others, make some new friends and be outgoing. That's the most I can say. Also, try to talk to your family more, socialize withb them too. I'm not saying to vent and tell them all your problem, but just have a conversation with them. Not about problems, but about...anything. Just talk.

So, be yourself, socialize and hang in there. Things will work themselves out.

-Nikki ;)

@Ashley:

It's hard to tell....I'd have to say to stay safe and not jump the gun yet. He might just be acting friendly.

Ways for you to figure it out yourself:
-Spark ing fun, random arguments
-Teasing (Playfully)
-Trust ing You
-Compliments
-Touching (Pillsberry, Taser, massage, etc)

If there's any more info you can give me, it might help me understand the situation more. :)

All the best!
-Nikki;)

@Popbomb:

Yeah, I understand all the commotion of being the new kid.

First of all, the most important thing I can say? Don't worry! Worrying will only make you nervous and anxious, it won't help. Relax, take a breather and clear your head.

A shortcut to getting to class on time and finding your way? Make. Friends. I know, it sounds hard, but if you are an open-minded person (you should be), then you should also be able to socialize. Make yourself open, so people will come to you. Either that, or look around, find someone you think is interesting and go introduce yourself. Shyness is like a disease: it doesn't help. In this situation, being outgoing is really your best bet.

About the crush, is he a really good friend to begin with? If so, then go to him. Worry about him, that's what friends are for. Let him no that you are open and that he can share things with you.

If not... then let it go. Odds are, he won't go to you: A crush is not a friend. Far from it. He seems to be in a little in a phase, best you can do is either approach him like a friend, or apporach his friends.

Remembe r: don't worry, be smart. Everything will work out.

Also, I didn't e-mail you because my e-mail is my real name... I'd rather not give that out.

-Nikki ;)