help with grief

Thread Topic: help with grief

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    funniebunnie01 Hot Shot
    do any of you guys know ways to deal with grief other than therapy? specifically the death of a family member

    i'm really struggling right now. i don't have many people who will listen to me talk about it though

    anything would be nice

    thanks
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    d_h Senior
    Well
    Hibiscus has nearly always helped me back I nonstop drank tea

    but personally I deal with everything by nicotine which I do not encourage because all it does is numb the pain

    listening to to post rock with its ambient beauty of soft sound allows you to easily drain your emotions but could cause you to burst into tears.

    and if you need somebody to talk to. You have my discord.
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    SprinkledSpice Advanced
    Try doing things to distract yourself. It can really help, and sometimes it's good to have someone to help you cope with things. If you ever need someone to talk to, just find me on my thread <3
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    axelbeans Novice
    don’t deny any aspect of what you’re going through, grief is real and it’s hard and the worst thing you could do is try to suppress it :(( i’m sorry you’re going through loss like this :// sending so much love and comfort your way<33
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    violagal12 Novice
    i found it helpful to

    talk to like a family member

    or just hang with a family pet
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    funniebunnie01 Hot Shot
    thank you all

    his funeral is tomorrow and i'm scared

    i don't know what to do. it's almost four am and i can't sleep. i really haven't been able to sleep very well these days.

    i guess i'll continue to try my best
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    LordDark Advanced
    I've found that with grief, you have to let it hurt before you can feel better. I know that sounds daunting, but like Axel said, suppressing your feelings will only make the emotions worse. Let yourself hit that low now so you can work your way back up sooner rather than later.

    Another thing I've found to be helpful: talking to others about them. Talk about the things you loved about them. Share stories, let yourself relieve your memories. Your brain might say, "Let's forget them right now!" but you shouldn't. While thinking about them will definitely hurt, talking about them to someone else will help you release the tension.
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    The Actual Boss Advanced
    Dark hits the nail on the head. You cant suppress emotions too much, or it will hurt you more. Although fully acting/reacting on them can cause harm too. Thinking of good memories seems to be a very effective strategy
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    The Actual Boss Advanced
    Gotta be honest, personally Ive dealt with it by unhealthy ways like unneeded anger and addiction, those are the worst ways because they can really really hurt you and others
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    SprinkledSpice Advanced
    Thinking of the good memories does help a lot. You do have to hurt a little to feel better later.

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