Does anyone identify as asexual or demisexual?
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Thread Topic: Does anyone identify as asexual or demisexual?
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Sooo... I'm working on writing a novel that I hope to get published eventually. I'm already planning to make a Kickstarter and pour some money into advertising said Kickstarter once I'm at least halfway into the novel, if not completed with it.
The main character is a fierce woman that does not get attached to anyone romantically throughout the story. At first, I was going to make her asexual, but now I'm wondering if she should be demisexual instead. If this first book hits it decently (SPOILER) I'm going to let her live in the second book. I was already considering that she'd find a new partner in the second book because (SPOILER) her best friend dies first chapter of book one. I want her to be a powerful heroine that can show younger audiences that women can handle saving the world without being in a relationship; however, I don't want to mistake that for women are better than men, you know?
How can I accurately portray this character as either asexual or demisexual? Do you have any personal experiences or tips? -
sowhatimdead NewbieWtf is demisexual??
I swear y'all just making s--- up for fun -
Demisexual: Only has sex with those they have an strong emotional bond with
So it would probably take time in your story to get her toghat point. If your plainly talking about romance and not sex you might want to worry about
A romantic and Demiromantic -
as someone who is greyromantic and who almost never experiences romantic attraction, they have to be exceptionally attractive or really mean something for me in order to want to be with them. I also feel like I'd be more likely to get attached if I have known them for a long time and I'm more vulnerable to them to the point where they understand/know everything about me, or if we're really close. If you somehow make the two characters get to a point where they just get each other completely, romance could blossom. be careful about rushing the romance. as tempting as it seems, develop their relationship thoroughly throughout several chapters or even books.
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I identify as asexual and aromantic but I'll admit I don't know much about demisexual. I guess the easiest way to say this is asexual people can have relationships, they just aren't that crazy about sex... Unless you make her aromantic.
The best way to portray Asexual is to remember that asexual people can be in relationships. Aromantic people prefer platonic relationships.
IF you want a relationship but also want an asexual character, you could get away with asexual demiromantic. I don't know much about demiromantics but it's like experiencing romantic attraction after developing a deep emotional connection. (I might be wrong though)
Also don't forget that ace/aro people can be aesthetically attracted to people. Just because we don't feel romantic/sexual attraction doesn't mean we can't tell when someone's good looking or no.
Hope this helps, but I'm pretty bad at explaining things.
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