Ever since I knew what it was, I’ve avoided the topic of s**x for so long. It makes me very uncomfortable. People can do whatever they want, but I do not want them talking to me about it (unless for education purposes). I totally get that it’s a natural thing, that happens more often than I think it does. That does not mean that I want to hear about it, or that I want to engage in it.
Fifth grade, when we got a talk about what sexual harassment meant. I thought it was a rare thing, that didn’t happen to many people. They gave us some statistics, like 70% of minors are sexually harassed.
I was like, “That’s a big fat lie.” Because I thought being sexually harassed was when someone actually got touchy with you.
Tonight literally made me realize that it’s actually probably around 85%. I go to a social with my friends, wearing sweatpants and a tank top. So nothing that shows ass, or anything. No reason for a guy to harass me.
This school that we were at, all boys school, pretty rich, very nice.
I don’t know how their parents raise their kids, but I DO know that they’ve got lots of money to teach their children what class is. I spent an hour and a half, getting harassed by guys with my friends.
I’m not an object, and I can say for a fact that every one of those boys were raised wrong.
So, I’m looking around at other girls who are there. All being harassed by the guys. And 90% of them didn’t seem to care. It’s because they’ve been getting harassed and talked to like this since maybe 6th grade? They’re so used to guys degrading them, that they don’t even realize what’s going on.
They’re letting guys do this to them, because they don’t understand that it’s not flirting. It’s not because they like them. It’s because they wanna feel like they’re smarter, more athletic, just better in general.
I’m not saying that women are overall better than men. They’re not. Both genders are the same.
I think that this whole, “Women can live without men because they’re stupid degenerates who don’t have lives.”
Bulls---. I call bulls--- on those people. Men deserved to be treated equally. Women do too.
There’s no “better gender”. We’re all just people.
But being a f---ing minor and feeling unsafe around guys who are my own age?
That’s not normal, so why does everyone act like it is?
Being catcalled, harassed? Getting looks from people because I’m showing my shoulders?
Not normal. And I can’t stop it. I can’t tell them to stop, because they don’t care. And there’s absolutely nothing I can do.
I’ll even talk to other girls, talking about how I’m so uncomfortable with all this stuff. I get the same stupid answer, “that’s too bad, but just don’t go to those events.”
Okay. So don’t hang out with friends? Don’t try to have fun? I’m not gonna hide under a rock because certain guys don’t have class, or because they’ve got brains as small as their d---s.
I should be able to go wherever I want, and feel SAFE. Not like I’m gonna get sexualized no matter where I go. It’s a rich, private school. That shouldn’t be happening. It shouldn’t be happening anywhere, for that matter. I’m so disgusted that this is happening to people everywhere.
But there’s no change that’s gonna be made. Because people have been trying for way too long. As long as guys know that women had once been below them, then it’s never gonna stop.
Like, ever. I know my mom gets harassed in the workplace. I know my friends do. I know my goddamn siblings must have at some point.
