Can I get some advice?
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Thread Topic: Can I get some advice?
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Basically I moved back to my old school and I remember a lot of the people there from last time I went.
Except I’m just really not feeling like it’s the community I want to be in. All my old friends have found new friends.
Even though I’ve found friends there, they don’t feel like the right friends. It seems like everyone’s hanging out after-school and I really don’t have time to do that, making me feel a lot more separated from them.
I don’t know what to do since I can’t make decisions for the life of me, so I’d really like some advice about how to adjust or if I should transfer (which is what I’m thinking abt) -
At my old school, everyone there was like me. I felt very much part of the community and I felt like my friends were really friends. Like I wouldn’t be scared to ask them things or ask for help or anything
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Here, it’s like everyone is so different. People get offended by little jokes and drama goes around so quickly. It’s making it hard to talk or say things that I want to say, since someone always finds something offensive
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What sort of things are they finding offensive?
My best advice for finding a friend group would be to be open to new experiences and personalities, and open to understanding or accepting other people or interests. Maybe you could pick up a new hobby and find interesting people through it. Or new people within your current hobbies. Theres genuinely going to always be somebody out there who you'll get along with, you often just need to put in some effort to find them. Maybe you could join a sport team or after school class or club if you have those. Maybe you could say hi to somebody you think seems interesting in your class, or who seems to have the same interests or personality as you
Either way, school relationships will often come and go like waves, so if your current circle doesnt feel like the one, it probably isnt and that's okay, because you'll likely eventually find more and more people like you the longer you stick around and the more you mature and grow
But if you're really uncomfortable with the school and unhappy there and its causing a negative impact on your mental wellbeing, grades or health, you should probably bring up the idea of transferring yeah -
Maybe they feel like you've changed, just how you feel like they've changed
It's hard talking to someone you haven't seen in ages. Perhaps another new kid may join, and you'll forget about all your other old friends??
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