Hello.
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Thread Topic: Hello.
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Well it takes a lot of attention to notice if someone is either depressed, bipolar, or just suffering from mood swings.
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I can agree to that. While I was depressed, I really wanted help for the first months, but gave up when no one was noticing. Once I figured out what was causing it, then I really became a lifeless shell.
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the rain NewbieHow did you get out of depression?
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My girlfriend slowly was able to pull me out of a two year depression. I feel a lot better about things now, although I am still a bit of a pessimist.
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the rain Newbie:( I am hopeless then, maybe I siphoned just give up and flood my time with events until I forget about this place.
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The thing about dealing with people who are depressed (mostly if they're suicidal) is that you have to give them that attention. My cross country coach/health teacher once told us a story about this man who was married, and his wife was mentally abusive. He was suffering from depression and he would say that he would kill himself and one day his wife said "go ahead and try. You're too much of a coward to do it anyways". He didn't kill himself that day, but he did eventually end up killing himself. So, you have to give them that attention, and yeah, it's probably gonna suck, but you have to do it because believe it or not, you're helping them get away from the gun. And the moment you stop, could be the moment that they pull the trigger. If they need to yell at someone, then be that someone and take it with a straight face. If they need a shoulder to cry on, then be that shoulder.
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I like being that shoulder!
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the rain NewbieI can do that, but not if he is trying to relate to people who are in his shoes instead of trying on a different pair.
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the rain NewbieHe wants to dwell and mope with someone who is depressed like him and he doesn't want to look at the positive people and side life
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Change is scary for some people. And if he feels like he's alone, he probably just wants to talk to someone who feels alone too, so that way they won't feel so alone when they're together. You can't force him because it'll only make it worse.
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quit f---ing talking about me behind my back
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Being depressed puts a black veil over the good things in life so it is harder to see those as clearly.
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Alex, it's a public thread. You can see it whenever you want too.
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the rain NewbieI am sorry, I really, really, don't know how to help as it being that when we used to palm has been taken now. I have no chances to talk to him and what replaced me isn't going to help.
I am sorry if I am being over dramatic, I just really need the help. -
No, you're not being over dramatic, I get it. It's like you get told a bunch of stuff that you haven't really handled before and you're trying to help them out as best as you could, but you also have your own problems to deal with, but who do you go to if you want to talk about them? And then what if you don't know what to do with a certain issue that he told you about? And then on top of all that, you start getting frustrated because you don't understand why they're feeling like that. You just have to learn to keep your cool, and if you need help with a certain situation then ask for it. But whatever you do, you just can't get mad at them because they will automatically say that you don't understand and then put you on the side of people who don't understand them.
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