help coping with grief & loss
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Thread Topic: help coping with grief & loss
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The important thing to remember is this: People react to loss in different ways. No predetermined process can outline what you’ll experience.
Coming to terms with your feelings about things can be difficult. Loss may stirs up complex emotions, including anger, frustration, sadness, confusion, and regret.
You might never find the answers you're looking for, but ignoring your emotions won’t help you process and move forward.
How to deal with grief and unexpected loss
•Acknowledge your pain.
•Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
•Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
•Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
•Give yourself time & be kind to yourself
•Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
•Find something else to focus your energy on
•Recognize the difference between grief and depression
don't invalidate your feelings. there's no correct way to grieve. Take as much time as you need and allow yourself to feel. Be kind to yourself and try to avoid self-blaming
Myths and facts about grief and grieving
Myth: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it
Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.
Myth: It’s important to “be strong” in the face of loss.
Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
Myth: If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss.
Fact: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one. Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it.
Myth: Grieving should last about a year.
Fact: There is no specific time frame for grieving. How long it takes differs from person to person.
Myth: Moving on with your life means forgetting about your loss.
Fact: Moving on means you’ve accepted your loss—but that’s not the same as forgetting. You can move on with your life and keep the memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you. In fact, as we move through life, these memories can become more and more integral to defining the people we are.
Remember that you have a lot of people here who care about you and want to help you. If you ever need additional support with anything don't hesitate to reach out.
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Hey I was wondering if what happens to me is normal? I've experienced loss before and when first confronted with it, I felt absolutely nothing like no emotion at all
I just turned into a hollow sort of shell and was incredibly apathetic for a while until it really hit in, is this common? -
That is completely normal! Everyone experiences grief differently and for some people that's no grief at all. That doesn't mean that you didn't care for them or that you're broken. Don't hold yourself to the expectation that you must experience mental anguish to truly be grieving. Sometimes it's numbness or nothing at all. Sometimes you might not even feel like you're grieving at all and that's okay too.
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Sometimes you're in shock too and your body isn't ready to start dealing with the emotions. That's okay too. Normal is totally subjective to you. I am sorry about your loss though and hope you're doing better now
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What about mourning someone who is still alive
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Ayo my friends great grandmother died, what can i tell her?
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@Mint - Thank you, that means a lot to me
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