Heres the case. Its complicated .
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Thread Topic: Heres the case. Its complicated .
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I feel stupid for asking help and I’ll probably regret this. When I’m around people that are not my family I never feel comfortable (and i never did since i can remember). I don’t know how but I automatically become a stay-away-from-these-people person. Someone tries talking to me i keep it short like yes, no or answer whatever he/she asked. I don’t have friends i mean i go to school talk to those “friends” if there’s any need to, come back home and thats it. In school we eat lunch and i eat as less as food as i can not because I’m not hungry or something it’s just I can’t. Later I discovered that this food problem happens because of stress! It makes you lose your complete appetite! I told you before I’m not comfortable around people. I noticed that in classes i get stomachache most of the time because of stress again and that could make me focus less on my lessons. But the most I worry about is My Future! What kind of future could a person
like me have?!
I don’t know if I made myself clear enough. I tried my best to put this situation in words but when i read it, it sounds like a classic, simple, stupid problem but trust me it’s worse! Unimaginably worse! -
It might just be social anxiety or something. Trust me, if someone isn’t my family and I don’t know them all too well, I’m very brief and usually come off as cold and uninviting. You have a future, just let yourself open up a bit.
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That’s the hardest possible thing a person could ever ask me to do. I can’t! But I’ll keep trying and spend some more years of my life.
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It happens naturally. Don’t think too hard about it, just let yourself do things that you normally wouldn’t do and you’ll open up.
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First off, don't feel stupid for opening up on this kind of thing (that's exactly what this forum is for anyway) it was very brave of you, and I think you'll find there's a lot of people who feel the same way.
Like @ChameleonLeap said, it does sound like social anxiety which is super common (in fact, it's the worlds third largest health problem) and has a wide range of symptoms. You are not crazy, this is a real thing, and can be extremely challenging in everyday situations. I think it's very helpful that you are identifing these symptoms and difficult situations early and on your own. (How long has this been happening/when did you start to realize it?) It can be a really scary, frustrating thing, but that doesn't mean you will never have a chance in life.
Actually (as your name even says) I think you are a very intelligent, perceptive, and courageous individual and you don't seem like the type to give up easily. Did you know there are actually a lot of famous and successful people with anxiety? There are. (Captain America/Chris Evans, Jennifer Lawrence, Johnny Depp, all incredibly successful actors, Kevin Love-famous basketball player, Zoe Sugg a multi-millionaire YouTuber/business women, and these are just the super famous ones! Think of all the ordinary people out there who have made a living and a legacy for themselves despite these difficult reactions)
Anxiety is different for everyone, and it will probably take time to figure out the best way for you to overcome certain feelings and struggles, but it is possible. <3
Is there anything you have found to help you when this happens? (Or just something you like that comforts you in general?) -
[And by overcome I don't mean that these problems will completely disappear (though I sincerely wish they would, and some people do experience significantly less anxiety as they get older) but that it is totally possible to calm, manage, and prevent them from happening. <3 ]
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Thank You very much @Dulcinea You definitely made me feel better!
And thank you @ChameleonLeap I will try!
YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST! :) -
<3
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