Hey guuuys.
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Does anyone wanna help me with my drama homework?
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Agent Awesome Newbiesure whatta need? I always act at my church
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Agent Awesome Newbiewhat do you need?
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Agent Awesome Newbieneed a skit
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Agent Awesome Newbiewell before I can help I need to know wut U need
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Agent Awesome Newbie
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Not a skit, lol.
I need to figure out my core beliefs. (AKA Makes some up because mine are all trash) -
Agent Awesome Newbieare U girl or boy?....
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Agent Awesome NewbieA belief is what your convictions are.
Do you know what you believe in?
Do you know what your true convictions are?
What is at the core of your beliefs?
What is core to who you are as a human being? -
I'm not exactly a boy or a girl.
I'm having trouble defining my core beliefs. -
Agent Awesome NewbieLetr go of negativity:
Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain. ~Robert Gary Lee
A year ago, I began to accept that I was depressed, and had been for a long time. It was scary. I broke up with my live-in boyfriend of almost three years, quit my job, and though I didnt want to, I moved halfway across the country to move back in with my parents.
I was a wreck; all of the feelings that I had been suppressing for years, some literally since childhood, came flooding back. My only defense in the past had been to ignore these feelings, though I did so quite poorly and ended up being an emotional basket case most of the time anyway.
After months of talking to my therapist and anyone who would listen, I finally began to heal. I started to find strength in myself, in my own thoughts, and was able to stop denying the truth that has always been inside of me. Now, when I get upset, I am able to accept it as a feeling, not as a truth; and I no longer have to run from my feelings.
This is a process that I wrote out, but came from a combination of help from good friends, said former boyfriend, and of course, my wonderful therapist.
1. Identify your feelings.
Where in your body do you feel it? What does it feel like? What thoughts come up?
These thoughts are what your mind is defining as your truth. You can redefine your truth. You may be thinking, Im not good enough, Im weak, Im broken, or something similar.
These are not feelings; these do not describe how you feel. They describe what you think you are, your false truth.
Change I am to I feel when these truths come up.
When you hear, Im broken, replace it with, I feel broken.
My personal false truth was, and sometimes still is, I am incapable. When changed to I feel incapable, I really notice the difference in emphasis.
I used to truly believe that I was incapable of a lot of things, usually relating to work or school. I feel incapable is a statement of the negativity that my mind was stuck in, a false belief, not a truth about myself.
Now that youve recognized you arent this thingyou only feel this waydig deeper. Ask yourself why you feel this way; whats behind the feelings?
2. Accept your feelings.
Repeat them to yourself. Dont judge them; just feel them.
If you feel like crying, let yourself cry. If you have tension, sit with that tension; breathe it in and breathe it out.
I felt incapable because I had performed poorly in jobs before, and I used this as evidence that I truly was incapable of doing better.
This acceptance hurts, but it ultimately brings us peace by releasing the negativity that we are holding onto.
3. Replace your old truths with new ones. Back them up with reasoning, and trust that this is the real truth.
For example, you might change I feel that Im not good enough to I am good enough. I am having a hard time because and I accept that. I am working on these issues to become even stronger.
By accepting that I felt incapable because of the past, I could now remember the good things that happened at workthe projects I was proud of, the people who I had helped, the difference I made.
4. Repeat the new truth back to yourself.
Notice what feelings come up and compare them to the feelings that came up from step two.
Which feels better to you? Which sounds more true to you now?
The intent of going through these steps is to examine these truths. In your gut, you know the real truth.
You may feel a sense of relief after doing this once. You may not feel much different at all. But if you trust your intuition, the new truth will become the new voice in your head, after going through the steps more times.
I knew on a deeper level that I was actually capable of doing a good job at work, a job I could be proud of. The negative truth hid what I really know I am capable of.
5. Do something constructive with these good thoughts.
Write. Make art. Make music. Dance. Exercise; do something physical.
Do something that expresses how you feel now, that solidifies in your body as well as your mind what your truth really is, and how good you deserve to feel about yourself, no matter what unpleasant circumstances you may be going through.
Our bodies contain memories that we dont consciously know of. Doing something active with these new ideas and feelings will bring positive body associations.
I find journaling and yoga to be very healing. I sit and give myself time to really think and feel instead of never questioning the false truth that I sometimes carry around with me. I write that out. And I reinforce the new truth when I am going through the movements in yoga poses. My body remembers that feeling.
Each time the old truth comes up, go through these steps. Your brain currently has a habit of jumping from a negative feeling to a false truth in your consciousness as a single thought. Sometimes these thoughts are also subconscious, as they were for me, because youve ignored them for so long as your mind tried to shield you from the pain of admitting negative feelings.
I am incapable actually led me to feel so poorly about myself that I really did perform inconsistently at work. Once I started to dismantle it, I was able to start fresh and not let the subconscious truth fester and keep me from being productive.
Even better than waiting for these thoughts to come up, practice this daily. Soon, youll change the habit of clinging to false truths so to the positive, real truth becomes your first thought.
Instead of the old thoughts festering, these new thoughts are mindful, and they creative positive energy, which will continue to build.
If you still cant get yourself to really feel that this new truth is reality, just try to trust it. Trusting it is trusting yourself. And once the habit forms, it starts to feel like the truth.
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Agent Awesome NewbieTypical negative core beliefs
Most people have different unbalanced or negative beliefs. Although we may "believe" them (and yet be unaware of them) the good news is that today they are largely false beliefs.
The overall pattern
Almost all negative core beliefs are connected in a broad way with a feeling of lost self worth or of " not being good enough because ................." but it is the words that follow this phrase which are the most powerful.
They describe your core issue and those two or three words can set up a negative pattern that you will bond to and repeat throughout your life, until you can balance them with a positive pattern. There are hundreds of these beliefs as you can see from the long list on this page (and these are only examples).
Broad negative core beliefs or feelings about myself:
1. Not good enough (I am not safe)
2. Not good enough (I dont belong)
3. Not good enough (I have no value, I am worthless)
4. Not good enough ( I am powerless)
5. Not good enough (I am wrong, I am unsure)
6. Not good enough (My life is out of balance)
7. Not good enough (I dont exist; I am nothing)
8. Not good enough (I am not real)
9. Not good enough (I am unlovable; unwanted)
10. Not good enough (I am defective)
11. Not good enough (I am not whole I have lost my spirit)
Within these broad belief patterns, however, are hundreds of different, personal variations. It is when you start to identify your own that things become much clearer about many of the major issues in your life. (See examples below)
NOTE: A core belief is always an internal "I" statement as in "I am unlovable"; "I can't "
A supporting belief is a similar prediction about what other people will or wont do to you. It is not a core belief but is closely linked. A belief that "Nobody loves me" is a supporting belief', a prediction or forecast about what others will do or have done to you.
For example an untrue core belief like "I am unlovable" helps make other people react to you in negative ways. This helps to give the core belief the appearance of being true. (A self fulfilling prophecy.) If it were not for the core belief we may have been able to accept love and be loved.
Book N-1 "Understanding your Negative Core Beliefs"
Book N-2 Core Belief Balancing includes a set of step by step worksheets that have been thoroughly "road tested" by over 1500 clients. Completing these worksheets in your own time and in private will enable you to identify your own particular core beliefs. As you work through the pages you will develop a much greater awareness of your core beliefs and how you are triggered. You also become aware of the way your automatic protectors (your inner selves) react to triggers and as a result how they control your life and play havoc with your relationships.
Book N-3 is a Workbook on How to then Balance your Core beliefs
Book N-4 has more ideas for Balancing
Here are just some of the typical negative core beliefs I have helped clients to balance. At the foot of this page are notes about a few specially interesting ones.
1. Not good enough (I am not safe)
Im unprotected
I am afraid
I am vulnerable
I am helpless
Supporting beliefs and predictions
Nobody will protect me
Linked Issues
Safety; Security; Peace; harmony; vulnerability; protection
2. Not good enough (I dont belong)
I am unwelcome
I dont fit in anywhere
I am lost
I am all alone
I cant help myself
I am unwanted
I should not be here at all
Supporting beliefs and predictions
Nobody wants to know about me
Linked Issues
Belonging; Connection; self-nurturing
3. Not good enough (I have no value, I am worthless)
I am disposable
I am unworthy
I am not worth anything
I am not interesting enough
I am no good
I never come first
I always come second
Im nothing
Im not valuable
I am uninteresting
I am unimportant
Im not anybody
Supporting beliefs and predictions
Nobody values me
Nobody cares about me
People who say nice things to me dont mean them
Linked Issues
Self worth; Loyalty, Difficulty giving or receiving gifts, congratulations, love or appreciation;
4. Not good enough (I am powerless)
I am incompetent
I am not any good
I am unsuccessful
I am inferior
I cant control anything
I am disposable
I am unworthy
I cant achieve
I cant change
There is no way out for me
I will fail
Supporting beliefs and predictions
Other people manipulate me and control my life
I am trapped and cannot escape
Linked issues
Achievement; Boundaries; Standards; Structure; Success; Goals, Results; Being organised, Self empowerment; ability to make changes; bonding patterns; self-protection; avoiding manipulation;
5. Not good enough (I am wrong, I am unsure)
I dont know
I always get it wrong
I am always wrong
I am confused
I cant understand
Im not understood
I cant be sure
I am in the wrong place
I am a mistake
I am unaware
I am uncertain
I cant make myself clear
I am mistaken
I am not trustworthy
Supporting beliefs and predictions
It isnt fair
I wont get justice
I cant trust people
People dont trust me
Linked Issues
Truth; Right-wrong; Justice; Fairness; Openness and honesty; Trust and Trustworthiness; Integrity; Understanding
6. Not good enough (My life is out of balance)
I am unbalanced
I am out of control
I cant be moderate
I always get it wrong
Nothing works for me
I stuff up everything I do
I am a klutz
I cant fix it
Everything I do goes wrong
I attract trouble
I have ruined my whole life
I cant get it right
I am in the wrong place
I cant make it work (klutz)
I cant fix it
I will never be able to fix it up
Supporting beliefs and predictions
Other people have to fix my life for me
Wherever I am I dont like it. I need to move
Linked Issues
Success; Fixing problems; Solutions; Achievement;
7. Not good enough (I am defective)
Its my fault
I am guilty
I am bad
I am not whole
I am imperfect
I am unattractive
I am flawed
I am stupid
I am awkward
I am slow
I cant be me
I am hopeless
Im not true
Im dirty
I am ugly
I am fat
Im shameful
I am unclean
I am useless
I am a reject
I am crazy
I am unbalanced
I will fail
I am a failure
I am a loser
I will lose
I dont deserve to be loved
I dont deserve to be cared for
I dont deserve anything
Theres something wrong with me
Supporting beliefs and predictions
People can tell there is something wrong with me
Linked Issues
Integrity; Reason; Balancing giving and receiving; Emotional age; Growth; Avoiding flips between opposite positions
7. Not good enough (I dont exist, I am nothing)
I am nothing
I am worthless
I am invisible
I dont exist
Im nothing
Im not anybody
I am insignificant
I am not enough
I am not recognised
Supporting beliefs and predictions
People cannot see me
Linked Issues
Recognition; Being who I really am; My history; My knowledge; My experience; Self-awareness; My doings are not my beings (Who I am is not what I do)
8. Not good enough (I am not real)
I am a fake
I dont know what is real
I am unsuitable
I am not true
I dont know who I really am
Supporting beliefs and predictions
People will find out that I am a fake
Linked Issues
Freedom; Autonomy; Individuality; intimacy; self-protection; Balancing my personal and impersonal energies
9. Not good enough (I am unlovable; unwanted)
I am not lovable
I am unacceptable
I am always left out
I dont matter
I am not special -
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20 Powerful Beliefs That Will Push You Toward Success
December 21, 2009 | 0 Comments
Im sure you have met at least one person in your life that is successful, motivated and self-empowered. This is someone that always seems to land on their feet, turns everything into gold and every success seems to come their way faster and thicker.unnamed
Im also sure you have stopped to think about why these chronically successful people are so energetic, driven and successful with no apparent struggle while you seem to have such inertia impeding your progress.
Many believe that this is some unfair throw of the dice; that they just werent meant to become successful. Or perhaps its that the ultra successful people had some advantage or social lever that you didnt. Occasionally this is true, occasionally success is inherited or stumbled into. However, more times than not, its created.
Success, first of all, is not a set of achievements or a combination of external factors; it is a mindset. Success is an attitude that comes from a framework of powerful beliefs and empowering thoughts. There have been many books written about this, probably some of which you have read. In the ones I have read, there always seemed to be a certain partiality an incomplete picture perhaps biased towards financial success or some other area but not another.
In the following list of beliefs and empowering thoughts, I would like to present a rounder view of success. One that I hope will give you a wider angle towards the meaning of success ranging from the material to the spiritual.
I am in charge of my life
The belief that you and only you are responsible of what you make of a given situation. Life does not happen to you but is a result of how you respond to opportunities and challenges.
I can make tomorrow better
The belief that you can change your future by your actions today. Some people are stuck in a fatalist (and dis-empowering) mindset where they believe they have little control on their life.
There is a lot of opportunity out there
Successful people have their mind set on abundance and opportunity and not scarcity and lack. Trust me this makes a world of a difference. Believe that life, energy, positivity, love, opportunities, success, happiness are abundantbecause they are!
I dont need the approval of others to succeed
If you are always looking for others approval and consent you will not go very far off and you will certainly not be self-empowered. Successful people follow their heart even when others are skeptical or do not consent.
My intentions have effect on my reality
This is not to believe in magic where you can wish things into beingwell almost. Most people are blind to this but successful people know, consciously or otherwise, that a focused and strong intention is indeed a powerful thing that will make a lot of things happen and certainly get you to your destination faster.
People are catalysts not barriers to success
If approached in the right way and you network with the right people, you will leverage your efforts by a thousand fold. You will get things done faster by getting help from others.
Positive thoughts are powerful and empowering
Successful people know very well that choosing to start a day with a positive rather than a negative outlook means having successful day as opposed to a frustrating one. Its definitely in the attitude.
I am not separate from the rest
This is a deep insight which only the truly successful and wise ones keep at heart. Commonly people believe that they are separate and cut off from the rest because they are individuals. True knowledge will tell you that everything is interconnected and success comes from acknowledging that you are not separate but one with the forces of life and the universe.
How can I use this situation?
When life throws a bad streak at you or you your plans go down the gutter, ask yourself How can I use this?. My life changed as I started doing this. You can always turn a situation around even by just observing, learning and sharpening your attitude.
Hard work & perseverance are rewarded
This is a rule of thumb even if perhaps reward doesnt always come immediately but is paid off in the long run.
My past can be reviewed and rewritten
Some people are locked in their past or think that their past circumstances determine their future. Successful people are skillful in the art of interpreting their past and reframinmg it according to their optimal advantage.
There are forces and energies which can help me if Im conscious
You might be thinking magic? Fairies? Not exactly. We cannot perceive certain subtle energies but some successful people believe in positive and negative energy flows from things and people just like ancient Chinese traditions believed in the flow of the Chi (Qi) or life energy. You can make yourself aware of this but it takes practice.
Failure is good
As in point 9, empowered people can turn a failure into success by learning from it and moving on.
Dont take it personally
Get out of the trap of taking life circumstances personally or you will end up enslaved emotionally. When you get rejections, criticisms, cold shoulders, etc., put in within an impersonal bracket. They are not rejecting me, but an idea of me they have in their mind.
Bad patches are temporary
We all pass through bad patches. Its the cycle of life. But we all get out of them unless we chose not to. Think outside of the moment.
What I learn can be improved and refined
Self-empowered people have a very dynamic view on life. There is always space for change and improvement especially on skills and lessons learnt.
I am constantly developing and expanding new capabilities
Just like the previous point, empowerment comes from a non-static outlook where life-affirming mind states are believed to expand not contract.
Things are impermanent, dont attach yourself to things
This is a Buddhist concept which the real successful have learnt through experience. You might think that successful people are materialistic. I think the really successful are people who have a richer view on life and know how to ride lifes waves without getting emotionally attached.
Forget, forgive, rejoice
Dont get stuck in resentment and grudges. Travel light without dragging an emotional baggage full of past disappointments.
I already have all I need
Self-explanatory. The path to success is through self-discovery and not world conquest as some would believe. People who have made it knew how to uncover their skills and true potential instead of obsessing with possessing.
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