Idk if this will apply to everyone but have this.
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Thread Topic: Idk if this will apply to everyone but have this.
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I'll bump it tomorrow because I'm aware it's late at night.
Sitting in the sidelines isn't how you'll help me to become a better person. You can tell your friends about how bad I am. You can mock me, make obvious posts about me, or do whatever it is that you do to get it out that I'm an awful person. You may also sit there and avoid me or pretend that I haven't apologized for what I've done. But I will never change if you don't tell me what's wrong with me. If you don't have the guts to tell me what you don't like about me, then you have no room to talk. If you won't tell me to my face what's wrong with me, that means that you know that what you have to say is wrong. I'm aware I make mistakes. I make horrible, HORRIBLE life decisions. But I do learn from my mistakes. I remember every fight I have with someone. I remember every cruel or stupid thing that I say when I'm upset. I try not to repeat what I've done or what others have done that will upset any of you. If you have a bone to pick with me, go ahead and say it to my face. Let me know what you want me to do to help me become a better person.
For the record.. Yes, I assume things. It's a humane thing to assume what another person might do. I happen to assume the worst possible scenarios. But don't you, too, assume? Sometimes, when you want to speak to your parents, you might assume that they'll always say no. You might go up to your crush and assume the worst- they'll reject you or laugh at you. You might even go to a restaurant and assume they won't have your favorite food if you're new to the place. People assume in their every day lives. I often make the mistake of assuming the worst when I fight with people. I ask that if I make a wrong assumption that you tell me I'm wrong. Just say that. "Jillian, you're wrong. That's not what happened." You can be mad if you want because I'm stupid or I speak too much. You can ignore me for a few days if my assumption was that bad. But am I really such a bad person for assuming? We all assume. Don't hate me for being human. I didn't ask to be born this way.
I'm still growing up. I have so much to learn from the world. I've lost a lot of my friends because I was so messed up over a breakup and a potential lover. I made the mistake of ignoring the people who were there for me. I stopped taking care of myself and I focused on video games because I thought it would make me feel better. I focused on new groups of people. Because of that, I lost a lot of friends. I've been on and off with a lot of them. I'll admit it. I'm stupid. Retarded. Ignorant. Arrogant. A pure dumb---. But I never stop fighting for my friends. I don't stop believing in someone because we've fought. I continue to care for them from the sidelines.
I know I'm doing a bad job at being here. I know I'm not being the best friend right now. For what it's worth, though, I'm sorry. To any one of you that I've hurt because of my life choices. I'm sorry. I know what I did was wrong. I know that a lot of you are sitting here saying "I was right." And you were. But as I've said.. I don't forget any of our fights. So if you're willing to accept my apology, I'd like to be friends with you again. I want to grow up with the people who were there for me. I can make new friends, but I'll never forget the old ones. I don't want to lose anyone when I've fought for your friendships before. And right now, I need you guys more than ever.
So please, for the love of god. Tell me if I'm doing something wrong. Please. Don't drop me because of one mistake, or even a few. Humans make mistakes. That's why I'm so forgiving. I know that everyone has bad days and they say the wrong things at the wrong times. I do it all the time. I just.. I ask that you do the same for me. I'm obviously trying my hardest to do better. To be better.
My change will not be easy. I will continue to make mistakes. But I ask that all of you bear with me here as I try to make this change. If any of you want to join me in the road to becoming a semi better person, go ahead. Say whatever you've been wanting to say for so long. I don't care what you want to say. Just know that I'm asking for forgiveness if I've hurt you- and I'm asking for your friendship always. -
Ok Dark, I hope you get better soon :)...
Recently, I know I've been somehow ignored here, I think, but I believe it's only my feeling as I try to communicate with others. -
I hope so as well. I'm starting to eat and sleep more. I just need to game less and spend some more time with my friends.
I think GTQ users ignore others because they don't know what to say. I know that's my reason for not speaking to people. I often don't know what- if anything- we have in common. My personal threads, both the Official Darkness Thread and the Official Lightness Thread, are always open to the general public. If you'd like to chat with me, you are welcome there. x3 -
Thank you Dark :)
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However, GTQ is starting to lose people, I haven't seen lots of members online recently.
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With all of the 404 errors and people's dying lack of interest, I'm afraid the population is going down. Many members don't feel as entitled to stay as they used to. I noticed the Lounge had pauses that lasted hours where no one posted. That's a little terrifying. Never imagined for that day to come.
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We should tell GTQ Guy, but haven't seen him check the site lately. He should renovate the site and make it better. I do see some disadvantage from the site and most of them have been posted in Feedback forum, but yeah, I think GTQ Guy hasn't read it.
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f--- me, I can't sleep.
I blame the constant troll spamming and rude users that are popping up faster than moles in a whack-a-mole game. I mean, i'm going to be real here and say that the 404 errors don't really bother me. It's all these f---ing newbies with their first world problems. Granted, there are some newblits like Sphinx and Twilight who aren't that bad and have actually contributed to the betterment of the site in some way, shape, or form. It's just that for every 1 good user, theres 3 bad ones who are either rude, a troll, and/or just whiny and make me cringe with secondhand embarrassment. I know there's no real way to fix this, but I wish we could do something about it. -
GTQ Guy did mention not too long ago that he would be moving the site's servers and changing the interface (or something like that). It is true that he hasn't checked in lately, however.
I'm sorry that you can't sleep.
I get your point. The moderators (myself included) have been trying to help whack all of the trolls back into their little hole things. However, there isn't much to do about the rude/negative users. I'm afraid we can't delete their accounts no matter how much we'd love to. As for newer users, we have to understand that most of them are actual children. It's up to people like us to train them to be better people. Try explaining to them that they have.. Less liked qualities. And that you'd like them to have.. Better qualities. As I said in my paragraph, posting about people doesn't help them much. I do understand if you don't want to deal with them, though. I'm always willing to speak to new users and explain to them some netiquette. -
Moving site's server won't resolve this problem though, it's only about promoting site and get people to join.
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(Oh btw Dark I think you are doing a good job at being a moderator.)
It's just that the community is toxic these days. I'll talk to a newblit if they choose to talk to me, sure, but I will hardly go out of my way to talk to them because of how much they make me cringe.
Now, on to mod power and trolls, I feel like this would bring up something that has really bothered me for a while.
You say mods are having a little trouble keeping trolls down. Now, most users would say "Oh oh, make more mods! I should be a mod!"
But I see it like this: As of right now, rank means nothing. Sure, you have a lower post time, but other than that, it's meaningless. Iv'e been on this site for around 4-5 years, and I still feel like my commitment and (For lack of a better word) maturity has been for nothing. I'd like to help. I want to contribute. But I can't. That's where ranks come in. I'm a hot shot, yeah? It's a pretty high rank if I do say so myself. Iv'e been here for a long time. Put the hours in. So listen here: What if the higher your rank is, the bigger the impact you have when marking posts as offensive? I think most can agree that people with 1-2 year old accounts are pretty mature, give or take a few individuals. So it makes sense to give more power to these higher accounts! Yes, it's not a perfect system due to hacking and whatnot, but it's worth a shot at least. -
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oh my god yes can we finally discuss this
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It stuns me that the Lounge has not been active, or at least, not as active as it used to when I first joined the site.
Newbs are a problem. And yes, I do fit myself into that category. They want the attention, and they are not mature most of the time. They cause older users a headache. Then come the trolls. They want to make chaos to bring attention to them. There's hardly any newb that is actually decent. I've left the site for some time because I was bored of the same old routine of the newbs and the trolls coming in to irritate us.
Stupid idea, but what if there was like some sort of like "Welcomer/Tourist Guide" for the site? Someone who could teach the lads the ropes. But that's just a stupid idea, and it won't work well. Or will it? I mean, as a newbie newb, I was curious about everything and I wanted to have someone teach me how to mow the lawn, but no one really "helped" until I became a super annoying conceited brat. But oh well. Something will be done.
P.S: Dark, you're an excellent mod. You've done a lot for this site. I hate to see that you are going through all this mess. I'd deal with the mess so that you wouldn't be under these circumstances, if it was in my power. -
*Tips hat*
Asshat at your service.
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