tell me my flaws
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Thread Topic: tell me my flaws
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You can be rude and impulsive sometimes. You also sometimes don't confront people when you probably should.
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You have simultaneously been too passive and too aggressive at the same time.
As Drekk said, you have had a tendency to not confront people when you should. I know it's very difficult to do such a thing, but your mental health is important. If someone is doing and/or saying something that is negatively impacting you, you need to stand up for yourself and speak up. You can't afford to let people walk over you, especially not with how much growth you've been going through. Negative interactions aside, you definitely need to work on talking to others when you feel something is wrong. If you sit aside and don't say anything, you could potentially make matters worse. Don't be afraid to talk to your friends and the people you care for. If you need reassurance, ask for it. It's better than assuming things and accidentally making yourself upset for days on end.
On the flip side, you've been a bit too aggressive towards people you openly dislike. Some things are better left unsaid. While it can feel powerful to call out someone, you need to do it in a way that it's actually beneficial. But so far, from what I have seen/heard, you have really only been relentlessly aggressive. Aggression is usually not beneficial for either member involved in a situation. I recommend that you should either privately rant about what you WOULD say, or, find a better way to call someone out in order to make a strong impact.
Finally— and I believe I said this to you once before— you have a bad habit of blaming yourself for things you really shouldn't. You need to learn that there is more than what you can see. Don't let assumptions get to your head, and don't assume that you are always at fault. If someone hasn't outright said that you've hurt/bothered/offended/etc. them, then don't automatically assume they feel that way. Just as you need to give yourself the benefit of doubt, give that same benefit to your friends.
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