GUYS COME WATCH MY VINE
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Thread Topic: GUYS COME WATCH MY VINE
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Also you misunderstood me when I said it isn't about you. This just proves that you really don't actually pay attention to anything anyone else says. It isn't about the person being asked. Humans don't think like that. Everything is tailored to the person asking the question. ALWAYS. It's human psychology. Don't get p---- at someone for a situation you can resolve easily.
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emmajamme2 NewbieI think you and unloving arr picturing two different scenarios james. when im making small talk with a girl I dont assume she's gay.
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Is it really that hard to just say "Are you in a relationship?" tho? Do you have to gender it omfg
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Dude, even when I had a girlfriend and someone asked if I have a boyfriend, I just said, "No, I have a girlfriend." and everything was cool. Why the hell are you getting all worked up?
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No, but if you were interested in her you'd eventually ask. Or if you said something that alluded to her being straight and she corrected you, you wouldn't be offended by her. It would have been an honest mistake. Which is what Unloving is getting pissed about. Honest mistakes.
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I'm not getting worked up. I did the same and got the usual "Oh that's okay my ___ doesn't either and she's ___" which is heteronormative af
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As Rain said.
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It's not exactly a mistake. It's an assumption. Straight people think everyone else is straight until said otherwise. Straight people think being straight is the "standard" default sexuality.
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and before anyone says it, here: NOT ALL STRAIGHT PPL!!!!
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... It kind of is the default sexuality.
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How so??
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It may not be the default, but it is the majority and the safest assumption. So calm down, you are literally looking for something to be mad about now.
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Agreed. But, how about, instead of assuming, let's say "Are you in a relationship?" It's not difficult to learn to say.
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Neither is, "No, but I have a girlfriend."
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Okay but the thing is, we both agreed on heterosexuality not being default, ya? Asking someone you don't know something like that perpetuates the idea that it is default and that leads to homophobia. Straight people can fix the way they talk about sexuality, LGBTQ members don't need to keep stepping around it.
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