Old-Fashioned?
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Thread Topic: Old-Fashioned?
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LipsForKissing NoviceThis is mostly for girls to read, but if you're a guy, you can read it if you want. So I've heard a lot of jokes about how women always wait for men to magically make the first move. And how if you don't ask a guy out you're being old-fashioned. If any of you girls think that way, I'm not trying to offend your way of thinking. But if you fling yourself at a guy, he's probably treat you like crap. Because he didn't have to do anything too win your affection. He just assumes that he deserves you and shouldn't have to do anything for you. That is the case with most guys. And it's not just me who thinks like that, a lot of guys think like that too. They feel like they should make the first move. And sorry, but if they don't ask you out or make the move, they probably don't like you that way. They'll do it when they're ready. I by no means think this is all guys but a lot.
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True. If a guy wants to be with you they'll ask in time. Or they're shy and the girl has to do something first. :/
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My mother has always told me about how it was in her times- when it was the position of the boys to ask out the girls. I understand that, I guess. I don't disagree, but I'd like to think not all boys are like that.
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Personally, I'd never ask a boy out on a serious date. Maybe as a chaperone, or something like that. But never on a date.
I quite agree. You should have a boy try to win your affections. He should never think that he deserves a girl. If a girl falls under a boy's spell quickly, she shouldn't make it obvious. I know I wouldn't. It's not in my nature.
Plus, it reveals how much he likes you by seeing how much time and effort he puts into impressing you. You shouldn't leave it too long, though, you he could think you will never like him and give up. Having stated that, if a boy really likes you he wouldn't give up. -
In my personal experience, I've NEVER met a guy that would do that. If a guy would do that, you're obviously crushing on a massive douchebag.
I disagree with this on so many levels.
And as I read all of that, THIS automatically came to mind.
If you like the damn guy, you should be the one making the first move, not wait for him to do it. And don't just f---ing fling yourself at him either, be casual and chill about it and if he starts treating you like that, it's obvious that he's not worth your time (and obviously doesn't like you) and you can leave the f---er.
(I'll be honest here, I think the blame is also partially on the girl's side for letting him treat her like crap in the first place...and for 'flinging' herself at him and seeming so desperate as to making the guy think that he can get away with treating her like crap and she'll never leave.)
And I'm not necessarily directing this to you guys too, I'm directing this to the girls that do believe that guys SHOULD magically make the first move every single f---ing time. There should be an even balance in my opinion. Sometimes a guy asks, sometimes a girl does. Both genders can pull the same crap mentioned in the above. Girls can also treat the guy like bulls--- because the guy loves her so damn much that he's willing to take it just to be with her. There are a s---ton of awful girls out there and I've had the misfortune of meeting a good amount, so forgive me for my misogynistic attitude towards this.
Bolding this because it's important, I've not slept for two days. There's a high chance I read the first post wrong and none of what I've typed made sense. So if I needlessly insulted you for no reason, I apologize now. -
Usually,the girl asks me out because I can't speak english correctly when it comes to asking out a girl I like.
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LipsForKissing NoviceCarri04, I understand that not all guys are like that, but I know a whole lot who are like that. Not all, but many...
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Okay, as of now in my life I don't ever see myself asking a boy out on a date. If I were older and really wanted to settle down with someone, I'd ask. I'm not against girls that ask. It's the date that counts, not who asked. But I can't see myself asking a boy out on a date.
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ok heres whats wrong with this
i do agree that you shouldnt flling yourself at a guy and you should let them make the first move
but think, every guy is not outgoing and not all guys are bold enough to do somthing like that.
what is you and the guy is shy? both of you are too scared to do anything.
and i agree with Carri04. not all guys are like that at all i dint even know guys that like that. maybe it's the fact that we live in two different area's but most gys here are either shy, or they are "mr.popular" who usually aims for whores. -
But then the girl might treat the guy like crap, because she might feel she already derserves him....... see where I'm going with this? Besides, the girl should be smart enough to not ask the jerk out.
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^I noted on that, Sky, it's not just the guy who can be the jerk
The girl can be a massive biotch about it too. -
@Carri
I agree with you-
also, it's not sexist to say women can be jerks. It's sexist to assume only men can be jerks. -
@ carri
sorry, I didn't see that. I was kinda skimming. -
Naw, it's fine, if anything, I'm glad you said it
Cause it means I'm not alone on that view. xD
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