How can i help when im the one who's hurting too?

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Thread Topic: How can i help when im the one who's hurting too?

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    cheese1234 Junior
    okay so, if anyone remembers my last post forum, its because my best friend is dating the guy i was crazy about and almost dated until he went out with her. the topic was settled with he was trying to make me jealous but now, i think its different. i need serious help. my friend moved schools so the guy broke up with her because he couldn't keep a long distance relationship. so now, someone invited her to a school dance i recently had and the next day, she told me that she wants him back. i know for a fact that he's not worth it and that he doesn't deserve her. plus, i still like him. it gets me nervous. i dont want her to get hurt again. what do i do? she wants ME of all people to call him when he treats me like crap at school. i don't like him but then i do. she says she LOVES him but i seriously doubt that. help?
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Tell her to wait a few weeks. I know she may say 'But that's so long!' but it will let her
    1) Move on
    2) Realize he's a jerk
    or
    3) Change her mind
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    cheese1234 Junior
    shes been waiting 1 whole year. and to her, time goes by very slowly. she is very stubborn and she really wants me to call him. i told her to move on and i gave her suggestions on what to help but she kept saying that she need him to tell her that.
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Ask her to at least try getting over him
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    cheese1234 Junior
    she wont she is VERY stubborn and she insists on calling him.
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Why doesn't she call him herself?
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    cheese1234 Junior
    she doesnt know what to say. she knows i am a get-this-done kind of person so she asked me to do it
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Tell her nicely but make your point that you're not gonna call him
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    cheese1234 Junior
    shes gonna ask my other friend to do it and she wont trust me again. i'll call him but i dont want her to get hurt
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Tell her what you think, it might be hard/akward but tell her
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    cheese1234 Junior
    i did. i told her EVERYTHING. she still says, "i need to hear it from him"
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Say this "You're going to sound too clingy! You've been chasing this same guy for a year! Gte over him he doesn't deserve you" etc. It may seem mean, but she has to get the point
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    cheese1234 Junior
    i did. i already told her that only i said cheesy. she doesnt care. the one thing i ALWAYS loved about her is backfiring. she doesnt care if the world knows who she likes. she needs to hear it from him that he doesnt want her. but then again, he does want her. ive seen the way he looks at her but then i also see him check out other girls. he's been all over other girls and that makes me hurt because i have that teeny bit of love and hate whenever i see him and then im worried she'll get hurt too.
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    Teresa22 Novice
    Then I don't know :/ Sorry
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    cheese1234 Junior
    thanks for trying, anyway. :3

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