seriously I need a little help
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Thread Topic: seriously I need a little help
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So yeah a girl, a guy and I are three best friends. The guy and I like the girl. I love her seriously and he does too. We both know that we both have the same love choice...
I want her to be with me but I don't wanna be that kind of guy who "steals" others' girls. I mean if I somehow got her to be mine then my best buddy might hurt himself. But if he gets her then I won't be able to live. (Cheesy I know).
What should I do?
P/s. Forgive my grammar since English is not my main language. -
may the best man win but tbh she most likely doesnt like either of you
ive seen this happen with some girls i know and usually ya'll fight and s--- and then neither of you wind up getting the girl.
but as i said by some chance she does like either one of you may the best man win. it's her choice and neither of you should resent the other if one of you happens to get the girl. there's so many people out there that you'll manage. -
She probably isn't interested. Test the waters, figure that out, and ask her opinion. What you need to evaluate first however is whether you'd still want to be friends with both of them if she wasn't interested, or even if she was interested but not with you.
I don't know enough about you to give too much detail, but I'll make some assumptions.
- You're still in primary schooling (not college,uni,or trade schools)
- You're young enough to still rely on others for transportation
- other than maybe being at someone's house or being driven by parents, you only see these people in school.
If I'm right on these, do that self evaluation and be honest with yourself. If you're okay with any outcome, talk with her 1 on 1 and be honest. Not cheesy. Not creepy. Honest. "Hey, I needed to get this off my chest, but I really like you. If I'm alone on that, then that's fine and I don't want to lose you as a friend over it, but I really just need to know if you feel the same way."
If you aren't okay with any outcome, then test the water. Take things slow, focus on trying to hang out, just the two of you. If she pushes to have him included or make it a group activity, drop it.
If you aren't okay with just being friends, then get different friends. It's not them, it's you. -
WolfLove2:
Yeah probably she doesn't like either of us. That sucks though because we both love her. :3 We two aren't fighting though. We're like best buddies so nah we won't destroy our friendship for a girl no matter how much we love. Thanks for your reply.
Barberbob:
Thanks for your answer. If she doesn't wanna be in a relationship, and if this thing risks our friendship, then I'd rather be a friend than be her boyfriend.
And I'm in 10th grade so I guess this is just hormonal things? Not love? I mean, maybe it's love because I don't care how she looks, or how her figure is, I just want to be with her for who she is. And I can use other forms of transportation as of now. But I still depend on my parents on most of the things.
And I am thinking of try talking this out but I don't wanna risk the friendship. She's all I got.
I think I will drop this feeling. If my feelings for her don't go away after years then I'll just ask her out. Idk how this love thing works. :3 -
CordeliaAMermaid NewbieLet her decide who she wants to be with. I should know I have experience with relationships and I'm only a teenager
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Alrighty my crush confessed that she likes me. That was quite a surprise but anyway, now that she likes me.. what should I do? I have never felt so clueless before.
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