Messy Situation

Thread Topic: Messy Situation

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  Ame Novice

  5 hours ago
  So, recently, I've been trying to actually make friends with a coworker who I've known for a year. He was always too busy to hang out with, but he recently got more free time. We've talked and stuff during work, and the whole time he's been here, he's been nice to me. When I dissociate or get anxiety from my boss or customers, he always talks to me to bring me back, encourages me, or checks on me. Suddenly, I found myself flooded with scenarios of what would happen if we ended up dating. But logically, I couldn't see that happening since he's my coworker and im older than him. We're equals at work, but it would be awkward and I dont know if that's even okay, even though it happened at some point with two other workers. I figured the scenarios were just me being stupid and desperate, but then, I started noticing that I get sad when he has to go on lunch or leaves for the day. I find myself looking for any excuse just to talk to him. We joke around a lot. I almost literally ran into him yesterday when we were going opposite directions, and I felt really nervous being that close to him. We seem to have a lot in common, but I also know that he's not even what I consider an ideal partner. We both have similar views on the world and want to work jobs that help people. We both like gaming and anime, and want to go to conventions. We're both pretty laid-back people. He has amazing work ethic, a car, his own place, and I'm just amazed at that considering he's not even 25. Just today, I found myself thinking about wanting to sit together and just hold his hand. It feels so weird, and these thoughts of "I can't like him" and "What if" took up my entire day, despite me feeling they're trivial. What is happening and what do I do?

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