i’m a cis female, just for reference.
ever since i was really young, i’ve questioned my sexuality. i started questioning it when i was about eight or nine years old. i find the same gender highly attractive, and i don’t think i would mind being in a relationship with a female. i want to love whoever i fall in love with, no matter the gender.
i’ve kinda figured out that i am, yes, attracted to females, but i’m not sure if coming out is a good option for me.
my dad is very homophobic, transphobic, etc. it’s not that he just doesn’t agree with it, but he also makes disgusting remarks about people who are lgbt. he’s been doing this for years, and it’s always kinda hurt me.
when i was about eight or nine, i also had gender dysphoria, and did everything i could to seem “masculine.” to be honest, i feel like the only reason i feel “cis” or “feminine” now is i was basically being bullied out of my dysphoria by both my parents and friends.
it’s something that has always pained me. i don’t know what to do about it because it’s not something i want to hide forever.
So, my advice is that if you are still living with your dad, then I wouldn’t tell him. I don’t want you to be put in a potentially dangerous situation especially if he’s already making all these remarks that are already hurting you and he doesn’t know. I just don’t want things to escalate or for you to be hurt more and I think telling him could make him say more hurtful things towards you. That being said, I don’t think you should hide who you actually are from him for forever. So I would wait until you’re moved out and living on your own and are not dependent on him anymore, and that you also consider the fact that you might not be able to have a relationship with him after you tell him, and that you’re okay with no longer having him in your life if he completely disowns you or something.