A note.
- Locked due to inactivity on Mar 25, '24 3:54am
Thread Topic: A note.
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I wish to make it abundantly clear that Rai is not in the wrong. I have been in a really bad place the last little while with the death of my mother and having to put down my 9 year old cat within a span of six months. I am currently working on bettering myself so I won't ever feel this low again. I want to make it crystal clear that Raiden has done NOTHING wrong, so please just treat them with the utmost respect, care, and, I ask this with my own thoughts and feelings, dignity. Don't start antagonizing them. Thank you.
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I'm relieved to see you post, as I was worried for your well-being. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey to recovery.
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I appreciate it. I also wish for you to apologize Raiden. They have done nothing wrong and I just want xem to feel okay. Thank you.
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Unfortunately I will not be doing that, as xey have done other things beyond that post and have not apologized to me or others. I do not believe in extending respect for those who will not do the same. I regret my aggressive behavior, but I will not ask for forgiveness.
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I know Raiden. I know that they would, and have, apologized to many of the people you mentioned. Those who they have apologized to should know. They're a good soul. I know this.
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That's a great opinion but also kind of rude for you to say, Nitro. Fae just finished saying Raiden didn't apologize sincerely for xyr behavior to them, and you're saying Raiden apologized to everyone who deserved it? So you're saying Fae didn't deserve it, or calling Fae a liar?
Being a "good soul" doesn't matter. Your opinions of your ex don't dictate how your ex treated others. Don't be cruel to others on account of your devotion. -
I'm just curious. I've noticed there's a clique of sorts with people from around the site, mainly interacting with said group and not really caring about those who are outside. Take for example, Raiden. I've noticed that none of you really talk to Xem, not even small talk. But once we split, the ignorance towards Raiden has been more noticeable. Talking to me once everything ended, friending me after blocking Xem, ganging up on Xem after they were venting their frustrations, and never apologizing even after I said their venting was warranted, because in all honesty it was, making Xem feel they weren't even worthy of respect whilst Fae won't apologize.
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It's not a clique, it's a friendship group of people who get a long, and have their own servers outside of GTQ. Because the majority of us left it, as permanent users.
As someone who is Raiden's friend, its super uncomfortable for you to boil down my realtionships with my Best Friends, and their realtionships to each other as a clique that exists to Bully Raiden.
I'd also like to point out that all but 3 members of this so called clique are not actually active gtq users.
As its been mentioned everyone has their own reasons for being upset with Raiden. It's not anyone else's place to explain why that is or "spill the tea" so please do not ask me to. I'm friends with both parties, and care about both parties. And honestly I feel this needs to be let go.
I do wish you all the best however, Nitro. [ Can I also please have clarification on your Pronouns?] -
I can't speak for others, but I was friendly and/or at the very least polite with Raiden for a long time. I'm not sure when that fell apart, but I guess once xey started blindly defending Road, xey seemed to form a negative opinion of me. While that alone would have been fine, xey began to accuse me of things I never did (or at the very least, make assumptions about me). Furthermore, I know that xey used an anon account to argue with me when I shared stories about my experiences of mistreatment. My lack of respect stems from that fact. I will never forget that interaction, whether or not xey admit to it... and I don't understand why I would not be worthy of an apology for it.
If xey want to dislike me and talk about me in private, fine. But xey are not immune to criticism. You are not the only person xey have talked about in a public space. Besides, I generally avoid this site because it is no longer how it used to be... The only reason I made a post at all was because xyr posts were brought to my attention by someone else off-site. And my initial post was pretty respectful, even if it was out of the blue.
Sure, at the end of the day, you and I never really talked much. That's true. But when I see someone's private life being discussed like that publicly, after going through some really rough times myself, I am going to speak up. Raiden could have easily responded and explained that how I interpreted xyr post was not as xey intended... I even clarified that I was aware that I didn't have all the facts. But the point is, even if xyr post had been about a different user on here, I would have still said something. This culture of publicly talking about other users should have stopped a long time ago, and I am tired of people acting like it's not a big deal. -
Oh, and regarding the clique accusation... Obviously I care for people outside of my close friends, or I never would have bothered to make the post in the first place. I am very passionate about mental health. That is the main reason why I chose to make a post. As I expressed in my initial post, my main concern was that someone else's coping mechanisms was being spoken about in a seemingly negative light. It didn't necessarily matter that Raiden is the one who said what xey said; if anyone else had posted those exact same words about another user, I still would have said something. It just happened to be xem.
My posts in xyr thread were the only things that stemmed from our unresolved conflict. But again, if xey do not think I am worthy of respect, why does it fall to me to be the one to be the bigger person? Why is it that xey deserve an apology, but because I have friends, I'm... somehow not worthy of that? What do my friends have to do with any of this? -
Also, just because I'm curious now. Which of us sent you a friend request after your break up?
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Probably me, though that wasn't why. I was worried about you leaving lilis discord server and wanted to still be friends with you.
I however do not have Raiden blocked? So I'm not sure who nitro is referring to in that regard. -
Honestly, believe it or not but nobody in our "clique" Hates Raiden. A couple of us were xyr friends before the drama with road, and while some people just, can't forgive raiden for what happened and just want to move on, some of us have and are actively friends with xem.
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Nitro, i just want to let you know that i'm only sticking around the site to watch out for your response, assuming you intend to make one.
i think you made a lot of baseless claims about me and my friends, none of which have anything to do with Raiden... with the exception of the fact that xey have apparently apologized to some of them. not sure how Raiden apologizing to a few people means that the rest of xyr actions are justifiable and/or that xey are a "good soul" as you claimed, but that's your opinion and you're free to have it. it still does not change my belief that there's no reason for me to apologize. especially not to someone who couldn't bring xemself to speak to me directly.
i get it, unexpected confrontation is s---ty. and as i said earlier, i do regret my actions. but i don't care whether or not xey forgive me for what i did. as far as i know, i do not have xem blocked. xey were always welcome to message me on Discord if xey wanted to. i just never cared to do it myself because the list of things xey have either said directly to me or about me to others keeps piling up, and i frankly don't have the desire to reach out to ask someone to please stop talking about me.
also, as you have seen above, my friends have mixed feelings about Raiden, and that's their business. it's not like i'm going out of my way to ask people to not speak to Raiden. however, i don't think anyone's decision to be Raiden's friend has anything to do with this matter. Raiden chose to publicly discuss something, i chose to publicly comment, and that's really all there is to it.
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