Just something

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Thread Topic: Just something

Mused Jade
Joined: Nov 29, '15
Status: Junior
Me and my parents have opposing views. They believe I have to wear a skirt all of the time and the way I dress should be modest. By modest, I can't wear shorts, pants, tank tops, crop tops etc. The shirts I wear have to be a certain length and so do the sleeves. The skirts have to be below the knees. Nothing above it, because it's seen as sinful and scandalous.

Don't get me wrong, I believe in God. I just don't see their justification. They constantly spew scriptures to "try to" justify it, but as I was once told, I have to seek out my own salvation and I think that means interpreting the bible how I see it.
Stardust1
Joined: May 15, '17
Status: Novice
Oh that's interesting. I know some families are really strict on modesty, and while I see the point, some of it is a little crazy. My definition of modest is really just nothing to showy. No crop tops, no low necklines, no really short skirts (and I'm ok with this since I wouldn't wear these anyway). But I see what you mean. I live where it's hot 24/7 so shorts are what I wear all the time. And as for what it says in the Bible, it's not very specific. Every family kind of looks at it differently. So idk how you would interpret what "modesty" is. I think it's mostly saying don't draw attention to yourself by flaunting your looks.
There's this verse, Song of Solomon 8:4, "I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem. Do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases." So yeah just sometimes how you dress does that, and being modest would prevent that. But yeah, in your own family, I guess it's however you interpret it.

But while with your parents, you got to honor your father and your mother. Respect their wishes. So yeah sorry for this long comment.
Mused Jade
Joined: Nov 29, '15
Status: Junior
It's fine :3

I understand that I have to respect them because they are my parents, but I wish they could accept the way I see things. Just because I don't agree with their religion or political ideals, doesn't mean they have to shove it down my throat. I'm just trying to find a way to make them understand where I am coming from, but when I do it always ends up in an argument with me on the bad end.
Stardust1
Joined: May 15, '17
Status: Novice
I know, I'm sorry, I see how you feel. I totally understand! Maybe you and your parents could find some sort of compromise? Like maybe you get to wear shorts as long as they are a certain length and loose? Or maybe you can wear whatever you want if nobody but your closest friends will see you? It's hard working around problems with your parents. I know whenever I'm in an arguement with my mom, she's always right, in her opinion. Can be frustrating. If you can, it might help to bring someone level-headed into the arguement, someone with a lot of biblical knowledge. And--I know this is hard--try to not lose your temper in arguements. Try to show humility. If your parents realize the kind of character you show, and it's good, then maybe they'll trust you to make good decisions on your own, whether it's with your wardrobe or not

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